How do you deal with people that dont know you, but go on and on making a lot of assumptions about you ?

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How do you deal with people that dont know you, but go on and on making a lot of assumptions about you ?
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Interesting bit of irony. A friendship is like a journey, but its more like a long walk than a road trip. People make assumptions as a short cut to familiarity. This is a good thing in a way, because fear of the unknown is a real relationship killer, but being the victim of a guessing game isnt so pleasant either.brbrThere are a lot of variables here that need to be addressed. Is the person worth knowing? Is there something between you that makes the relationship of value to you? Does that person need to know you in order to accomplish some sort of spiritual or social growth? Sometimes friendship starts out on unequal ground. You have to give that friend a hand up before they realize the potential you may see in thembrbrIf any or all of these end with a Yes, then the friend is worth your time. If not, you casually distance yourself from that person and you eventually drift apart. But if that friendship is worth keeping, then you have to temporarily assume the role of teacher. You dont have to hit them over the head with knowledge and it shouldnt be done all at once, but you get to help this person on their path to being a betterbrbrListenerbrbrDiscernerbrbrJudge of characterbrbrFreindbrbrWhat you get out of it is the knowledge that you helped another human being to become an independent thinker. if that person is prejudging you, they are doing it because it is s learned behavior, probably to get the upper hand in a relationship and assume dominance You also get a better friend. Only you can decide whether the process is worth it!